Thanksgiving. People will Remember how You Made Them Feel

Written By Damascena Tanis

Today, on Thanksgiving, alongside the aching absence of Tanner’s Loss, our family is together. And I’m quietly, simply, celebrating the people who are still here.

After having moved through that “shattering” eclipse portal, on the other side I realize it’s the deep simplicity that matters most. Presence.

So while Tanner is joining us in a different way, I’m finding so much joy in the preciousness and irreplaceability, of my people.

They aren’t perfect, they are messy, fallible humans. But they are mine. And I love them.

Love is such a rare thing.

In writing Tanners eulogy I was drawn to include the quote “people will forget what you say, they will forget what you do, but they will never forget how you made them feel”. -Maya Angelou

In the intervening time since his funeral I’ve begun to understand the profound truth woven into those words. And what it requires of me to live into that.

It requires that I track the atmosphere I’m creating with my unspoken judgements and disapproval. It means if I don’t want to vibe silent criticism, I have to give it all up for the bigger game. Loving people where they are at.

Permission for myself. = Permission for everyone else.

This Thanksgiving, that’s my focus.

Love, only love. Just radiating the warmth and honesty I want to be remembered for. Because these will be the people who remember me. They will be my legacy.

Happy Thanksgiving All


Damascena Tanis

Damascena is an Archetypal Astrologer, Ayurvedic Wellness Practitioner, and The Facilitator of the Transformative Journey through the Mandala of Venus’ Wisdom, called “Sky Dancer”.

She is a passionate devotee of the ever unfolding mystery. As an expert observer, a trait she developed as an only child, she regards herself as both a student of life, and decoder of the cosmos.

Skilled at recognizing invisible patterns, and picking up on subtle shifts in the collective, she gets a thrill from uncovering and revealing the hidden threads that are woven together to create our paradigm.

Her passion for this existential detective work aligns well with her unique approach to one on one client work, as she helps others to discover the building blocks of their archetypal blueprint, and mythic overtones. She does not believe that astrology is static, and therefore works with clients to develop strategies and practices that allow them to transcend challenging aspects of their natal chart.

She lives on the Shores of Lake Erie with her husband, four kids, and Cat, Oscar (the grouch).

These days, when she isn’t interpreting a natal chart, or translating the stars for her astrology blog, you can find her engaging in one of her favorite pandemic pastimes, unraveling her inner “good girl”, cultivating the ability to thrive in the deep, dark, unknown, or playing her favorite game of identifying fun paradoxes called “two things are true at once”.

https://www.RedMoonRevival.org
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