Saturn Retrograde

SATURN RETROGRADE

I grew up in a codependent house, then spent almost three decades under its tyranny.

I’ve been free from its primary hold on me for about ten years. Yet some of the adult people closest to me are still codependent.

In some, it’s the product of alcoholism, in others, it’s having lived with an alcoholic, or having an alcoholic parent. And yet, in others still, I can track it’s source directly to their community environment.

*Let me be clear, nobody wants to be codependent, it’s a adaptive dynamic.

Nonetheless, it’s a dozy.

The energetic gunk involved leaves non codependent people feeling depleted.

No conversation is clean.

The subtle manipulation.

The expectation that we hold their responsibility for them. Or their insistence, that they must hold ours.

The assumption.

Then when we do manage to hold our own boundaries, the guilt tripping that comes afterwards.

The martyrdom.

The score keeping.

It’s enough to make non-codependent people insane. -If you know, you know.

The problem is, it’s everywhere.

Embedded in our culture.

And mostly, it’s unconscious.

Unfortunately, because of its prevalence, most of us carry a few codependent threads.

It originated in certain “Christian Ideals” that have become distorted.

Blanket Forgiveness, Tolerance, Non-Judgement, Saviorism.

And then there are the co-occurring political conversations in secular society. That center “goodness” over “groundedness.”

Culturally, we have definitely prioritized “niceness” over truth.

We say to our kids “that’s not nice.”

Or we encourage them to say sorry when they aren’t. Even when their own internal judgement tells them not too.

We push them to override their inner knowing, and the wisdom of their boundaries, to keep the peace.

Essentially teaching them to self abandon.

We don’t have complex conversations with our kids about how to navigate relationships.

As adults, we’ve got to get better at EDGE WALKING.

Edge walking, in this context, is about precision in relationships, involving communication, self-love, and self-care.

The ability to not abandon ourselves.

Knowing what is ours to do, and when it’s appropriate to say “no”.

Where it is important to be direct, and hold our truth. Verses when compassion is necessary.

Codependency is present in all toxic relationships.

It’s the underlying template. Often born out of dysfunctional/abusive dynamics in our childhood.

So while toxic dynamics are up for examination in the field through current events. Let’s acknowledge how the very nature of our society promotes codependency.

And how we can bring it back into a healthy balance with the sword of truth.

Accountability, Clarity, Energetic Cleanliness in Communication. Not taking over or under responsibility for what isn’t ours. Calling out manipulation. Choosing not to engage when someone attempts to hook us, or pulls at our field. Asking them to come back when they are ready to engage from a place of maturity and responsibility.

It’s Holding space verses rescuing.

If we want to see the end of toxic trauma bonded relationships, we all have a part to play.

Dysfunctional adults produce dysfunctional children.

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As a Capricorn Rising, establishing healthy boundaries, and a healthy relationship to responsibility, is part of the work I’m here to do in this lifetime.

Saturn helps us establish and maintain interpersonal boundaries, create a container, a foundation, from which all of our work in the world flows. If the energy isn’t clean. If it’s full of sticky cobwebs of the mind, or hooks and pulls in our interpersonal dynamics, we cannot hear or feel the truth. We feel left in a fog of confusion.

With his station retrograde, it’s less about creating structure out in the world, and more about working with him on an internal level, priming the template so to speak. Examining our relationship to our boundaries, and our ability to align with and speak our inner truth.

Rx Dates June 4-Oct 23rd 2022.

Looking at our own template, breaking free, getting crystal clear, is part of the work we do in the Gnosis Sessions.

In these special sessions we look at the chart, and pull out pattern or dynamic that is standing in the way of our ability to connect to our deepest truth. The result is that we come to “Know Thyself.”

Link to more info on the Gnosis Sessions below.