Self Love Distortion

Written By Damascena Tanis

Art: Anna Salezneva

SELF LOVE DISTORTION

I listened to an “expert” talk about cultivating self love.

And I emphatically disagree with this person’s philosophy.

Self love isn’t a destination.

It isn’t a place we eventually get too, after a lot of efforting.

Instead, it’s having radical acceptance of our messy, imperfect life. Now.

No additions, no subtractions.

We don’t have a self love problem.

We have a permission problem.

In that we don’t give ourselves permission to inhabit our reality fully.

We reject it, making demons out of our disowned parts, in favor of some idealized fantasy.

Projecting an image into the future of a person we think we can love. Then work towards that.

The classic “I’ll be happy when..” trap.

“Self Love” is an orientation to our lives. Not an act of doing.

Damascena Tanis

Damascena is an Archetypal Astrologer, Ayurvedic Wellness Practitioner, and The Facilitator of the Transformative Journey through the Mandala of Venus’ Wisdom, called “Sky Dancer”.

She is a passionate devotee of the ever unfolding mystery. As an expert observer, a trait she developed as an only child, she regards herself as both a student of life, and decoder of the cosmos.

Skilled at recognizing invisible patterns, and picking up on subtle shifts in the collective, she gets a thrill from uncovering and revealing the hidden threads that are woven together to create our paradigm.

Her passion for this existential detective work aligns well with her unique approach to one on one client work, as she helps others to discover the building blocks of their archetypal blueprint, and mythic overtones. She does not believe that astrology is static, and therefore works with clients to develop strategies and practices that allow them to transcend challenging aspects of their natal chart.

She lives on the Shores of Lake Erie with her husband, four kids, and Cat, Oscar (the grouch).

These days, when she isn’t interpreting a natal chart, or translating the stars for her astrology blog, you can find her engaging in one of her favorite pandemic pastimes, unraveling her inner “good girl”, cultivating the ability to thrive in the deep, dark, unknown, or playing her favorite game of identifying fun paradoxes called “two things are true at once”.

https://www.RedMoonRevival.org
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